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Nicole Xu for NPR hide caption. Is it really true that a good black man is hard to find?

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This week, we're taking on some long-lasting stereotypes about black-on-black love. I am an attractive, social young black woman from Austin and I can't seem to land a black man.

I support and participate in interracial friendships and romances so much so that strangers frequently comment on the college-brochure-cover level of diversity going on in my circlebut I have always desired and expected black love like my parents, grandparents and great-grandparents had.

I would not say I am waiting for a black man, but the older I get, the more weddings I attend where my brothers or cousins marry a white woman, the seemingly intentional lack of eye contact I receive while black men sidle up to my non-black friends in the club, the more I feel it will never happen for me.

I wanted my baby heir with baby hair and afros Jackson 5 nostrils, etc. What are your thoughts on this phenomenon and what can a black woman do to protect herself from feelings of rejection? Natalie, this is a conversation I've had with friends, family members, coworkers — even a professor I had in college. And it's never easy. Because to answer your question, we have to unpack some truths, some myths and some painful realities.

So first, the truths. Dating is hard for lots of people, but for black women in the United States, it can be uniquely horrible.

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For one thing, we're often expected to conform to white beauty standards. For another, we're up against a hold parade of racist stereotypes: Oh, and we can't take a joke. Those stereotypes and expectations do two things.

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First, they limit the pool of people who are interested in dating black women. And Interracial dating between black men and white women, they often create situations where we, as black women, try super hard not to fit into those categories. So rather than relaxing and trying to have fun with potential dates, we're caught up in the impossible game of trying to seem fun and ambitious and feminine and flirty And to help us out, we're told to listen to relationship advice, as Demetria Lucas D'Oyley puts itthat comes from experts with "screwed-up views" about sex and gender, who tell women "how to be better women [so that they can] land a man.


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